Severing the Bonds

There is something I don't understand. What is it that defines the bond between two people? What is it that defines what will make a relationship grow stronger or fade and break? And why is it that one person can try as hard as he (or she) can to continue a friendship, and in the end it will still break? This is the question to which I have no answer at the present moment. I don't even know if there is an answer. But it seems to me that though one may pour his heart and soul into a friendship, and spend his nights lying awake agonizing over it, it is all in vain. Unless the desire to continue the friendship is mutual, nothing short of divine intervention can save it. Perhaps it is just life. One person has his own personal experiences that change him in his own personal ways, and likewise with the other, and before you know it both people have changed and suddenly discover that they aren't so much alike one another any more. From this perspective perhaps it shouldn't shock me to think of one person becoming disinterested in continuing a friendship. However, being able to logically see why doesn't for one minute take away any of the pain or loss at thinking of a long and dear frienship coming to it's close. Perhaps the only thing that will drive away the pain is turning attention away from the problem and putting the focus on Jesus intead. To gaze at Jesus and only glance at the storm, as I have heard it put by someone. But I will save that for another post...